6 essential ingredients for boosting your confidence
Confidence is like gold; highly sought after but frustratingly aloof.
It can slip through your fingers like sand at the most critical times.
Just when you need it the most; on your first date, going for a job interview, giving your presentation; it so often lets you down.
Imagine if you could keep a bottle of it in your pocket, or smother yourself with it every morning. How would that make a difference?
Well you can! But more on that later……
What is confidence?
Confidence is that beautiful balance between inferiority and superiority; knowing that you are as good as anyone else but not better. It means having a good level of self-esteem with out being arrogant.
Why is confidence important?
Being confident allows you have faith in yourself and believe that you can achieve what you set your mind to. It means that you are able to take control of your life and enjoy the fruits of your efforts as opposed to being controlled by life circumstance. This means that you have much more satisfaction and greater happiness.
Being confident allows you to have faith in yourself
When you are confident you know:
- what you want,
- that you deserve it and
- that you can achieve it.
Wow how good would that feel?
So how do you get confidence?
Confidence is found in a healthy orientation on ‘Self’. When we look outside of ourselves for validation or approval we give our power away. We make someone else responsible for our happiness. Self worth cannot come from another – that would be ‘other worth’ and it has no value.
Ideally we learn it naturally as we develop it through our childhood. When we are accepted, acknowledged and loved by our family and friends we know that we are safe and valued. Feeling valued helps build our confidence; this is why we must value ourselves.
If we were not fortunate enough to have these things as children it is important to consciously develop it as adults. It’s like any other training you have to work at it and build that muscle.
Here are 6 steps to building self Confidence. Consider how you feel about each one of these. Repeat the affirmation (aloud preferably) and be aware how you are feeling as you say them.
- Self Esteem - “I like who I am”, “ I’m ok with who I am”
- Self Worth - “I deserve good things in my life”
- Self Respect - “I know what is good for me and what is not”
- Self Love - “I love myself just as I am right now.”
- Self Acceptance - “I accept who I am, with all my so called flaws and imperfections”. This is who I am and I’m ok with it”
- Self expression - “I will express my thoughts and ideas. I share my perceptions and I deserve to be heard”.
Pick one each day to focus on. Repeat the words over and over in your mind or aloud where possible. Think of yourself as you would think of a best friend and be kind and supportive. Notice how your body reacts and changes.
To be powerful and confident we have to give ourselves what we need. This is what it means to be an adult; to being a separate, fully functioning individual. Remember “what others think about me is none of my business” but what I think about me is the only opinion that counts.
Being confident allows you to have faith in yourself and believe that you can achieve what you set your mind to. Don’t wait to love yourself. Be your own person. You deserve it.
.......Now back to the bottle of confidence to have in your pocket. Well here it is:
Altearah Bio has crafted a stunning blend of essential oils that reflect the colour of gold and confidence to help you express your own personal unique identity.
You can choose of a perfume spray, body oil or roll-on serum each one will support you on your journey to a deeper connection to yourself. Use your chosen product or products every day while you do your affirmations and the organic aromatherapy scent will calm your anxiety, reconnect and promote inner radiance and restore your confidence.
Let yourself be who you are and discover who you could become.
- Maureen Callister